tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6579793611910834836.post4435751319084184050..comments2024-03-27T11:45:48.153-04:00Comments on LEGAL RIGHTS: TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO: Domestic ViolenceTrinbago Rightshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17979966801415147544noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6579793611910834836.post-60312453095474231122015-04-28T14:23:05.091-04:002015-04-28T14:23:05.091-04:00My mother has been married to my father for over 3...My mother has been married to my father for over 30 years.<br /><br />He has not been physically abusive to us until recently he hit my mother because he has recently started to be vocal about out discomfort.<br /><br />We grew up living like birds in a cage; he is like a prison officer who demands what we do when we do and how. He never provides or protects or contributes to our development.<br />My mother in receipt of a govt grant for my sister who is autistic and she works magic with that, paying bills, feeding us and sending us to school. All my father does for the past many years is work taxi when he has to pay his internet bill and fix his car. <br />The topic of divorce came up because she is ill and cant afford to keep using my sister money for there lively hood . He lividly told her never and if he is mad enough to do so they have to sell the house and split the money because she can’t reap the benefit of the house. My mother explained to him that she would give everything up but she has my 3 sisters including my autistic sister which she in unable at 53 years old to hold down a fulltime job because she has to see about my autistic sister and have nowhere to go. His response was that they of age.<br />My mother wants a divorce but can’t afford a lawyer, she feels unsafe because he told us all that he is dead to all of us and he is at peace with god.<br /><br />She has filed for a restraining order and has a first courts appearance this week.<br />What are her options? What happens at courts, what can she do to safeguard herself? <br />How can she get a divorce since he wouldn’t entertain the idea, What is most likely to happen legally after the court hearing?<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6579793611910834836.post-70882328217292940402015-04-28T13:47:23.496-04:002015-04-28T13:47:23.496-04:00what happens at courts, 1st appearance after an ap...what happens at courts, 1st appearance after an application for DVA made? <br />whats the next step?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6579793611910834836.post-11964554373968197302015-03-18T00:47:14.922-04:002015-03-18T00:47:14.922-04:00The above post has rightly stated that domestic vi...The above post has rightly stated that domestic violence is “significant” in Trinidad and Tobago. While the topic is “Legal Rights: Trinidad and Tobago,” I would like to outline several factors that I believe is of utmost importance, as when they are successfully addressed, the issue of domestic violence would be curbed or considerably reduced. Firstly, being a citizen of Trinidad and Tobago, I am aware of the inefficiency of the police service. However, women in situations of domestic violence do have a part to play in the decreasing interest of the police. You stated that a woman reported that she made “many many many reports” to the police of her situation. The fact that she made many reports highlights that she is continuing to have relations with her abuser, as do many women in Trinidad and Tobago who is subject to domestic abuse. As such, the police may become uninterested as the women tend not to pursue the issue further. Thus, women must be less afraid and forgiving and follow through on the advice of the police to leave or seek legal measures. Additionally, while measures are being put in place to address domestic violence, when it happens, the casual factors should be examined and the problem should be stopped at its source. One causal factor of domestic violence is the patriarchal nature of society, more specifically Trinbagonian society and by extension Caribbean society. The patriarchal principle is transferred into the socialization of children, especially primary socialization. As such, boys and girls should be socialized, at home as well as in the education system, that both genders are equal and that physical, psychological as well as sexual abuse is never the answer and that all problems should be worked out through effective communication between the parties involved. As such, the younger generations would not gravitate to violent and abusive measures which would inevitably result in the demise of domestic violence. Therefore, while legislature is important, socialization into patriarchy, inequality and violence should be shopped and women in relationships plagued with domestic violence should end the relationship at once. When this is not done, the victims of domestic violence themselves are condoning this negative phenomenon. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369671175320188781noreply@blogger.com